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Five Steps to Stop Lying

Do you have a problem with telling the truth? Are you ready to change your lying habits and create a new you? 

There are many reasons that people lie. Telling lies or making false statements always leads to a troubling lifestyle. You may think that lying can get you that new promotion or even the guy or girl of your dreams, but what happens when the truth unveils?

Most of the time the results are disastrous and once it gets to that point, correcting a lie is often hard to do.

Now the question is what you could do to change your lying habits. Is it possible? Well, according to experts, changing lying habits is doable, but requires will-power and dedication.

Here are five steps to start you on a journey to a new, honest you.

Man thinking about the lies he has told

1. Admit It

The first step in any addiction and if you are a habitual liar this is an addiction, is to admit that you are a liar. Not just to yourself, but to others as well.

2. Support Team

Contact loved ones and friends. Let them know what you are trying to accomplish. You will be amazed at how much support you will get. Also, a support team is necessary to help build your confidence throughout the entire process. Sometimes a support team can also be an outside help such as a therapist or support groups that share similar interests. Therapy is another option for habitual liars. Participation in a liars group in counseling may aid you on your road to learning how to tell the truth. Discuss with the group or the therapist why it is you feel it is necessary to tell a lie. Be honest. Be open. Be yourself!

3. Identify Triggers

After coming to terms with yourself and admitting that you are a liar, the next step would be to identify what triggers you to lie. Some triggers are things around you or people that you are around. Take a close look at how your attitude or actions change when you are placed in certain situations. Ask yourself how you feel at that given moment. Are you angry, ashamed or happy? Perhaps the trigger is to make you feel better about yourself. This is where you have to identify what causes your emotions, which may trigger you to be in a position to lie.

4. Deciding to Quit Old Habits

Making the decision to stop lying takes a lot of guts. This is possibly the hardest step towards changing lying habits into a positive intervention. Now that you have decided to change your old habits, nothing can stop you from progressing. Take a walk over to a mirror in your home. Stand there for a few seconds with your eyes closed. Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Now open your eyes. Look at yourself in the mirror. Say out loud that today is the day you will become more trustworthy. Lies will no longer define who you are. Why? Because you are in control of what happens next.

5. Changing Routes

Now that you have figured out what triggers you to lie and have decided to quit old habits, it is time to change the way you do things. Don’t worry, this does not mean that everything in your life has to change, only in the areas that trigger you to lie. For example, if you know that you lie when you try to impress someone, then try to avoid that person until you are ready to step forward and introduce the real you. No lies attached. This step is simple to accomplish as long as you are willing to put forth the effort. Try it and see!

Brendan Carroll

Tuesday 21st of April 2020

I just lost the most amazing woman because of my lying. I was seeing my ex-wife for no good reason. I knew it was wrong, but I didn't know how to say no. I led her on too, because I was too afraid of confrontation to change things. I'm emotionally destroyed... I need to have some integrity and not just go along with whatever people say. It's so hard for me to be assertive because of things that happened to me I guess, not to make excuses, just trying to figure it out so I can get better. I really hope I can do it because I'm going to keep destroying my relationships otherwise and hurting other people. I've been crying every night over her since it happened... I would give anything to go back and make better decisions

Clifton Whatley

Saturday 26th of October 2019

Compulsive liar and cheater need help

Gregorio conte

Friday 8th of February 2019

I am wondering about health


Saturday 5th of May 2018

I have been a liar for virtually all my life. Since I have been married I have lied to my wife about finances. This is the trigger to my lying. I have very successful friends and have always felt inferior. This is no excuse to lie but is the truth. I have hurt my wife on numerous occasions and keep doing it. I have never been one to talk about things, but I need help.

Deyzha B

Wednesday 27th of December 2017

I lie so much I can't remember whats true anymore !!