It’s a sad fact of life that some men think they are better than women, just because they are men. These kind of men are known as misogynists.
It’s no fun dating or living with a misogynist. If you want to lead a healthy and enjoyable life, it’s imperative that you take a long hard look at your relationship.
Here are 6 signs that the man in your life is misogynist.
1. He wants you to do as he says – all the time
Misogynists feel they are in control the relationship and can tell you how you should live you life. This controlling behavior often starts with gentle teasing but soon turns nasty when it progresses to insults or ridicule.
We all have our preferences, but if your man constantly wants to control your behavior or change you, he might be a misogynist.
2. He doesn’t respect women
A misogynist may make vulgar, perverted or other inappropriate remarks about women. He talks about women in a dehumanized way. He is rude to their face as well as behind their back. If you’re offended by his misogyny, he just doesn’t get why.
3. He is a habitual liar
Misogynists have no problem with lying. They even go as far as twisting facts to make it look as if they are the victims.
Look out for signs that he is not being honest with you.
4. He lives beyond his means, spending on himself
Is your husband or partner always in debt? Does he lie to you about his spending habits? Worse still, does he cheat you out of your money and spend it on himself? This is the behavior of a misogynist.
5. He is extremely competitive, especially with women
A misogynist hates it when a women does better than him. This could be in a social or professional setting, to him that’s not important. But when he perceives a women has the advantage, he acts terribly. On the other hand, if it’s a man who get the upper hand he may not like it, but more often than not, he accepts it.
6. He is promiscuous
If your man has had solely physical relationships with a lot of women, it means that all women are the same to him. If this is the case, why would you be special?
7. He is just ‘too nice’
Nice guys can be misogynists too. Being “nice” simply means his behavior is not offensive, it doesn’t mean his motives are pure or good. Trying hard to “be nice” or using charm to achieve social or sexual objectives is manipulative and cruel.
As well as recognizing any of the traits listed here, don’t forget to use your intuition. You intuition has guided you through all of life’s ups and downs and kept you safe. Misogynists rarely change. If you are in a relationship with one, probably the best thing to do is end that relationship, right now.
I tell lies all the time. I lie to my children ,husband and friends. Whenever I get in a tight situation I lie.
Hi.. I’m not sure if anyone had replied to you. I’ve never seen a reply to anyone’s comments on here. So, I wasn’t sure if I needed to be signed in somewhere or not. Do you know if that’s true or not? Has anyone else ever replied to you?
Anyway, I was just curious about your comment.. First, I want to say that there’s no judgement here.. Not from me anyway. But, I was interested to know if you were saying it because you wanted to get help .. Wanted to figure out why it is that you lie so much. Or, if you didn’t really care. If I had to guess just from reading it, it seemed very matter of fact .. Like, oh well.. I lie. And you don’t really care that you do.
And, I was wondering if everyone knows that you lie to them.. Have they every called you out on it? Do your children lie too?
Thanks!
Excellent response, Sandra!
Me me me
This sounds like my husband. I never saw these traits in the beginning, he was so charming and kind, but after he got his way with me, things changed. I had never seen this side of him. He’d say things like”typical stupid f**king women” and “worse than a woman.” He has insulted me in public, yelled at me in front of his friends and they became disrespectful towards me. He would ignore me, and deny me sex but then he’d go watch porn. Where does this behavior come from? This must be something that is learned in childhood or something.No one else sees this. To them he’s Mr. Wonderful and can do no wrong. But I know his ugly truth.
Sorry you are in a relationship with a dishonest narcissist! It is hellish.
I am seeing a man in my life, start off with a lie, kept dealing with this man with the lie, thinking I can maybe change him my way. al ready knew him though he was a cool man. I know is a Misogynist man. he like more than one women, He like confusing lying, keep malice between the women with lies. saying he don’t want no! commitment with me. I don’t know what he saying to the other woman. he just think her can keep this mess going. he that Man! No! respect at all.
But thanks to the signs. I know this is a Misogynist man. for a peace of mind. and a healthy life, I must move on. after facing this for 6yrs. SAD! and have a debit problem.
Well my man has just walked off this week. He told him he was a M. and I always knew there was something in his past he didn’t respect women. This time he really showed his true colours to me. He wanted me to do what he wanted…very controlling…he tried to break me/even told me he wanted to.
Lies well he was very good at that. What he did behind my back was another thing. He hurt me a lot from what came out from his mouth. Yet he can be quite charming when he wants to be. I think he got tired of me as he wasn’t getting his way. He is a player to the point he has most people feel sorry for him.
The monster who lives under my roof has so many problems, and they are all very deadly serious. I am realizing that even if he got help, it would do no good because he is all screwed up in the head. He lies, steals, hates women, is a sociopath, is bi-polar, paranoid schiz, etc. He blames others for his wrongdoing, is extremely violent, accuses others of lying about him, is extremely verbally abuse without any cause, and is protected by the police. He does not pay any bills, and is unemployed but finds work from family members who are in denial of his evil ways. I find it hard that they could be so stupid, but I am guessing that they are. My life is a nightmare, and I am constantly being threatened by him. I am permanently disabled, and he preys on disabled women especially. He is very intelligent, and manipulative. He is extremely jealous and controlling, and makes false accusations. When his mood disorder rears it’s ugly head, he has become so enraged as to be homicidal, or close to it. He has absolutely no conscience, and always tries to come up with a good story. Mental illness runs in his family but I am betting that he is the sickest one in that family. I am living a nightmare. Please pray for me.
Mary,
I am so sorry to hear your sad story. I will pray for you.
Hi Mary, I am in the same boat, my ex-boyfriend was intelligent too and manipulative. He was so charming and swept me off my feet, using my low self-esteem as a hook. But once we got together he started talking about how he hated women, and always blamed women for anything and everything. I am still recovering from this person and I hope you are in a better place now. God be with you.
Love and Light,
Sandy
I know that this is an old post, but I want to respond. I want you to know that I feel you.. It was almost like I was reading my own life story. I have lived this life for 16 years now. It’s all I know. I questioned his love for me everyday. I knew that I could never do or say the things he has to me…I love to deeply. I guess It is partially my fault, but I have waited to long to leave. I wanted to be loved so bad, so I guess I have my own issues. i AM 34 and I thought that the despair the pain and the sick things he does and says would go this far. I never knew I could hurt this bad. I would give anything to be able to go back in the first years of our relationship. I thought it was really bad then. Now i wish I could have that life back. It hurts so bad. I hope that you are still around. He lies to me about everything. I don’t think there is one thing he doesn’t lie about. He bullies me and acusses me of everything. He steals what little bit of stuff I have and says really sick things. He make me cry and laughs at me.He hates confrontation but he will not stop doing these things that I could never do to anyone. I am lost and my life is controlled by someone Iove who hates me and loves to see me hurt. ?I just want to diebut I have a son who needs me..I wish we could leave but I have no money. I loved working but It was always him blaming me for cheating or something. I have never cheated and I am just the type of girl who would be happy with one person as long as they treated me as an equal, respected me, and loved me. I dont know what to do. I just dont have the strength to do much anymore. My son needs me and My husband just needs me to be hear so he can have someone to play tricks on. I do not see any way out. I have given up and I pray every night that I am taken away that this is my last day.. I awake with the gut wrenching feeling that hasn’t gone away since the first time he betrayed me. I curse and cry that I have to do it another day. It’s a nightmare. Oh the pain . I know it will never get better.
I am sorry I talked all about myself but I do relate to your story. I hope that you have made it out. ……………..
Get out now’!!!!!!
You are an independent and strong woman who has a child that you need to protect emotionally.
You are scared and traumatised and yet the stronger side of you is trying to pull you out.
Other people will help you with finAnces. single women raise their children all the times you need your child when they are an adult to remember that their mother saved them from this vicarious abuse rather than leaving them
In an unpredictable and unsafe environment. Do not traumatise your child as welll as yourself. Reclaim your freedom. Tomorrow you go to someone and tell them that your partner is
EmotionLly abusive and that you feel unsafe. Telling someone is the first step.
But you do this now.
People are more loving and understanding than you can ever imagine at the moment
Xxxxx
Your words may save my life. I’m getting out because of your story. I will be praying for you. Lean on God every minute. He’s with you and he will bring peace
Give him your misery in exchange for his peace
Matthew 11:28-30 NIV
[28] “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. [29] Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. [30] For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
I am in exact same situation. They are demons from hell. Worse yet I have kids he has tortured as well. I am religious and he has even used that against me. After 2 years, a mountain of debt a…He will get out of our lives one way or another. We do NOT have to live with Satan.
Oops! In the above comments I mean that it is hard to believe that his family could really be that stupid. They are obviously not well educated because they had a very hard life.
My name is Tim and I am the antipathist of a narssissit obsessive compulsive liar
Sorry to my girlfriend Mandy and her children and all the women I have manipulated and strung along in my lies.
I don’t know how to stop.
Thank you for being honest Tim. It can be done, but you can only change if YOU want to. Our brains are very plastic and can be reprogrammed. Find a good throat that works with personality disorders, go to in-patient treatment, turn of the TV and read on the subject constantly for the next year or two, and don’t watch p*rn. It dehumanizes women and kills love and respect.